“Ask yourself, Do I respond to my [child] in ways that make wisdom appealing? Do I make the taste of correction sweet? I watch parents make correction bitter as they beat their children with demeaning words. Make wisdom attractive. Make correction something to be desired.
Win your children for wisdom. Be a salesman for it. You don’t do this with nasty, inflammatory confrontations and ugly verbal power struggles. No wisdom is imparted in these moments. If you hit your kids with a barrage of verbal bullets, they will either run for the bunker or come out firing themselves. . . . Remember, giving wisdom is not hitting your [child] over the head with words. It is putting a lovely garland around his neck.” (Paul Tripp, Age of Opportunity, 77-78)